Have you reached a point where you want more in your life? You have achieved a lot of your master plan, accommodated detours, coped when unexpected things consumed. All those goals and dreams that were so important;’ve come to fruition and you are now feeling ready for something fresh.
In actuality, you may have started to realise that the last few years are spent in cruise-control, comfortably meandering along.
You may have begun to notice in some family members and friends that they’re becoming increasingly disillusioned with their lifestyles. They may even seem bitter or antagonistic towards those friends who are still energetic and dynamic, who’ve introduced into their days over time.
Seeing friends who value working, who enjoy new interests and challenges, setting themselves testing new jobs can sometimes cause resentment, jealousy, jealousy and even prompt sarcastic comments regarding how much they do. Comments like,’at their age, their time of life why do they bother, what do they expect to accomplish, why not sit back now and take it easy?’
But watching busy, energetic friends can also inspire us to want more out of life. It can motivate us to make an effort to see the advantages in having a go. I want more in my entire life’. At a time like this it is great to mix with those that are demonstrating what is possible and can introduce us to a new awareness of our potential.
Remember though, that when we do compare our lives to other people’s many aspects might be very different. We all have our own story. What offers motivation and purpose for one may not work for another, or even be applicable. We need to nurture our own goals, find ones which sustain and fulfill us on our way.
Equally it’s important not to be overly reliant on others to keep us on track. We all have our own lessons, learnings and insights to make. Yes, others may be able to offer support but they are not going to be heavily invested in our life and success as we are. Expecting others to provide continuing interest, encouragement or observation may ultimately lead to frustration, resentment and even the evolution of a possessive, co-dependent relationship.
When you need more in your life it can be good to take time to explore and try out new opportunities to find out what best suits you. Perhaps offer to help a friend, local company or charity. Volunteer and see what is involved. Give yourself a reasonable amount of time to get accustomed to the new demands, discipline and routine, to become knowledgeable about the skills required; then you can discover how you feel about making it more lasting.
Taking on more commitments doesn’t mean overwhelming yourself however. Pace yourself and revel in this new stage of life. Pre-determine the amount of time you can realistically afford to invest but also accept that once you make a commitment other people may come to rely on your normal input and involvement.
And remember that the longer you stay in your comfort zone the smaller it becomes. When you decide you need more in your life be enthusiastic about regularly scaring yourself a little with new experiences. It’s a terrific way to remind yourself that you are still alive!